This blog is intended to support: A MEN'S PROJECT, a website at:
web links for Men & Boys in North America seeking a just world where we:
1. Live without violence
2. Support children
3. Live healthy lives and
4. Encourage others who may feel "different"
It contains well over 2000 web links for men and boys in North America related to issues of:
1.) Violence - against women, girls, men and boys,
2.) Fathering - relating as parents, grandparents, friends and allies,
3.) Our Health - physical and mental
4.) Relating to others who may be or feel "different" by:
* a. Race or ethnicity
* b. Sexual orientation
* c. Gender identity or
* d. Other areas
We attempt to be inclusive. We also are committed to gender equality, peace and justice (and thus not accepting of Misogyny and other areas that reject or blame others because of Who they are).
A number of core beliefs are important to A Men's Project:
1.) We men and boys need to realize that we have serious issues that relate to our being boys and men,
2.) We men and boys need to get much more deeply involved in helping ourselves and other men and boys,
3.) We men need to understand that our issues are issues within ourselves that have both no outside general culprit such as "women", while individually we may have been been seriously hurt and even victimized/abused by our fathers, mothers or others,
4.) We men need to understand and work seriously on issues related to how stereotyped "masculinity" often teaches us to act in dysfunctional ways including:
a. Keeping our feelings largely within ourselves and only expressing them through anger and in some cases violence directed at others,
b. Not reaching out to others beyond seeking most, if not all, of our emotional support from women we may be in primary relationships with (if we are heterosexual),
c. Not significantly supporting the efforts of others who may seem different to us (by gender, race, sexual orientation, age, etc.)
We live in a world which has traditionally favored:
1.) Men over women, as well as
2.) White people over People of Color,
3.) People with wealth over poorer people and
4.) Heterosexual people over bisexual, gay/lesbian and transgender people.
We believe in the necessity of men and boys working for positive change to help build a better world for all!
We hope that A Men's Project will help men and boys (as well as women and girls) to:
1.) Find resources which will help them with important issues that greatly affect men and boys,
2.) Encourage the networking and mutual support of men and boys doing their work in North America (while we have resources from outside of North America we cannot successfully cover a larger geographical area),
3.) Help make it possible for individuals to form new groups and projects to help men and boys in North America as well as:
4.) Helping organizational efforts organizing regionally, nationally, and for North America.
We do Not support efforts which blame:
1.) Women and girls - significantly - as the major cause of our problems as men and boys,
2.) People of Color including Blacks, Latinos, and Asian-Americans as well as Whites as a major cause of our problems as men and boys,
3.) Gays, Lesbians and Transgender People as well as Heterosexuals as a major cause of our problems as men and boys,
* 4.) Men and boys as the major cause of our problems. We look at issues relating to "masculinity" including how we are socialized to "be a man".
We recognize the important work done by many others! We have been strongly influenced by seeing how the:
1. Feminist movement of the past 40+ years has helped women and girls grow out of stereotyped roles of femininity.
2. Civil Rights Movement of the mid 20th Century helped Black People and helped spawn other liberation movements.
3. Gay/Lesbian/Transgender Movements of recent decades have helped their participants.
We hope that far, far, far more men will recognize how we are hurting as men and boys in various ways. We want to work positively for change that will Not pit men and boys against others, but help build a more positive masculinity. We want our efforts to help us:
1.) End violence directed at other men, women, girls and boys,
2.) Be better fathers, grandfathers and allies of other men and boys (as well as supportive allies of women and girls),
3.) Live longer, more healthy lives as well as
4.) Be more inclusive of others who may seem (or feel that they are) different from us in various areas including by race/ethnic heritage, sexual orientation, class, differently abled status, age, etc.